How Can I Make My Divorce As Amicable As Possible?

Filing a divorce case and facing its consequences can be one of the most stressful times of your life. A lot of changes take places and there will be several situations that you will have to face alone. There is a lot more to deal with than just the physical separation, as living alone and not having the support as you previously did, can be quite daunting at first, and emotionally overwhelming. There are so many more unknown factors that could add to the existing stress and these include the financial aspects of your life, or even children.

Ever wondered if it was possible to reduce all this stress and make the divorce process a whole lot easier? The key to a less stressful and more amicable divorce is to approach it the right way, and the initial steps include combatting the pain of separation personally, without bringing in the legalities.

Keep in mind that a peaceful divorce ONLY happens when both of you agree with each other THROUGHOUT the divorce procedure.

STEPS FOR A MORE PEACEFUL DIVORCE:

• First ensure that a divorce is what you both want
• Come to terms with your emotions as they could cloud your judgement on more important issues such as finances or children.
• Get support. Even if you feel lonely, remember that you are not alone.
• Understand that there are sources of divorce support to help you sort through your feelings of deprivation or isolation and use them to deal with your emotions in a constructive way

Dealing with the legal aspects:

• Get all your documents ready with the help of legal document assistants or preparers and consult a family law firm


• Find a mediator that you both agree on to help fix any unresolved issues between the two of you


• Come to an agreement after you have talked about all of your problems with each other


• Listen to your attorney’s or family lawyer’s advice as their recommendations are very helpful


• The final documents can be finalised which then brings you to discussing and coming to an agreement about your assets and finances


• The most stress-free way of dealing with such matters is to agree between the two of you of who will have what, yet, the longer the marriage, the more the law looks towards an equal division.


• Ensure that the agreement is put into writing, and this document is called a Consent Order


• Once approved, there is no turning back.

The simplest thing to do to have an amicable divorce is to decide on things together with your partner. It may not seem possible, but think of the bigger picture ahead of you, and you’ll realise that the faster you get the divorce proceedings out of the way, the sooner you can learn to regain your sense of individuality!